Fat shamers bullies haters roosh v

I was watching Dr.Oz,his guest was a fat shamer, one dement who shames people for being fat, and he says that men hate women over 70 kg. He mistreated women of all ages height colour and religion, his hate is so big that not even his ego can compete. This man , I pray, will never have children, what would happens if he haves a chubby baby? Will he kill him? Starve him? On the internet his name is roosh v.
Psychopath. 
How many are under the influence of his words? How many cry because of his followers taking pictures of them on the streets and being called fat pig? 
Roosh V. You can have the body you want and still you will be shamed for having no brain, no humanity. More or less, you are an asshole.
S. 

Domenica mattina e decluttering

La domenica mattina ha il profumo del bucato steso e della primavera in arrivo.
Decido di buttare via cose, per fare spazio alle emozioni,
Svuotare cassetti e armadi per far spazio ai sogni, per dargli modo di uscire,
I cassetti non devono contenerli.
Svuoto scatoloni e riempio cassonetti,
Svuoto la mente e riempio il cuore.

La domenica mattina è solo mia, la casa silenziosa,
La famiglia dorme ed io a piccoli passi ho buttato cose per fare altro posto ai loro sorrisi e alle loro parole, ho svuotato tutto tranne il cuore
Ho riorganizzato tutto... Anche i pensieri..
S. 

Spiritualità , costi e varie

la mia spiritualità ,argomento serio ,

in questi giorni ci stiamo preparando per la prima comunione di mio figlio, ma io da un pò di tempo mi faccio delle domande, ho qualche dubbio.

Non nella Fede, non ho dubbi la, io credo davvero, ma le costruzioni intorno alla fede mi lasciano un pò perplessa .

Dio è uno, uno per tutti , e non ha nemmeno bisogno di cambiarsi d'abito, né nome, la sua essenza viene manipolata in diversi modi, e non dico che siano modi sbagliati, ognuno vede quello che lo fa stare meglio, ma... ma...

I dogmi che ci vengono insegnati nel corso della nostra vita (da cattolici ma non solo) ci mostrano un Dio iracondo e vendicativo, io non lo vedo così, lo sento amorevole e non lo incolpo delle disavventure della mia vita, perché sono io che cammino sulla mia strada, vinco le mie battaglie e commetto i miei errori.

La mia gratitudine è sempre con me, sono grata all'essenza universale che illumina le nostre anime a dispetto del suo nome o dei suoi profeti.

Certo, non è il momento migliore per mettere in dubbio la gestione da parte dei pezzi grossi del proprio credo, la prima comunione è un passo importante ... tante cose da fare, ritiri spirituali e altro ancora, e offerte, in denaro ovviamente, perché come possiamo prendere il corpo di Cristo se non abbiamo pagato?

Da quando la Fede ha un costo? come la monetizziamo? un tot a preghiera? un tot a pensiero? e il listino prezzi tiene conto della devozione e dell'amore?

la fede un tot a chilo non è la mia Fede,

la mia anima ha un valore intangibile, come il mio credo.

Ti amo

mi dispiace

ti prego perdonami

grazie

S.

Spirituality, costs and things

my spirituality, serious subject,
these days we are preparing for the first communion of my son, but since a while I have questions, I have some doubts.
Not in the Faith, I have no doubt there, I really believe, but the buildings around the faith leave me a bit puzzled.
God is one, one for all, and has no need to change clothes, neither name, its essence is manipulated in different ways, and I'm not saying they are wrong ways, everyone sees what makes them feel better, but. .. but ...
The dogmas that are taught us in the course of our lives (by Catholics but not only) reveal an angry, vengeful God, I do not see Him, Her like that, I feel love and do not blame the misfortunes of my life, because it's me walking my road in my way, I win my battles and I make my mistakes.
My gratitude is always with me, I am grateful to this universal essence that illuminates our souls in spite of its name or its prophets.
Of course, it is not the best time to question the management by the top brass of the belief, first communion is an important step ... so many things to do, religious retreats and more, and offers, in cash of course, because how can we take the body of Christ if we did not pay?
Since when the Faith has a cost? how do we monetize it? a tot each prayer? a tot each thought? and the price list takes notice of the devotion and love?

faith a tot per kilo is not my faith,
my soul has an intangible value, as my belief.

I love you
I'm sorry
please forgive me
thanks
S.

Monday happiness, be happy all around the world

Mothers day and fellings (thankyou Ikeda)

Mothers day has been wonderful for me, 
I spent the day with my lifetime love and my fantastic son. The brought me flowers and smiles. 

They made my lunch and let me relax and have fun all day long. I love the two men of my life, and i am so grateful for having them by my side. 
We went walking (it was a sunny day) and talked and laughed, I could feel all their love in each touch and word. 
I have no money or jewelry but I do have jewels, they sparkle like mid day sun in my heart. 
I am blessed, by all the Gods human beings know, blessed by Mother nature and the universe and this is all the richness I need. 

Be happy
S.

The strength of a mother is the strength of the earth.

As the earth nourishes plants and trees, it makes flowers bloom and ripen the fruits, a mother is the soil from which sprout education and creativity.

When she sets in motion her energy, everything changes.

It is the mother who transforms the family and the community.

It is the mother that transforms society and the era in which we live.


It is the mother that turns our world into a world of peace.

D. Ikeda 

Be grateful , heal the world

This morning, reading the news papers I was impressed, only 15 days have passed since Nepal was destroyed by the earthquake and nobody writes about it anymore. Seems that journalists have forgotten about the thousands dead in seconds. 

The worst side of the story is that I read always about this or that "star" losing weight, yesterday she was xx kg, today she's x kg, tomorrow etc. , so sad. 

If journalists suppose that humanity want's only to know about skinny of fat people, or which smartphone is the best, if they think that our only interest is which bikini will be the summer hit than we are lost. I know that it's not right to read talk think only about the sad side of the world but our consciousness should awake ... We all can start making this world a better place only by caring for those less fortunate than us. We can make a change by being grateful for what we have, by helping the person next door, one act of kindness a time can change the world. 

Smile

Love

Be grateful

Be thankful

Be happy 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BWf-eARnf6U

S. 

have a great day!

Numbers and other bits of me

The numbers of my Friday


In this period of my life, after 30 years of work, I find myself full-time taking care of my family and  my home and I like that, my rhythm  is more musical, and so my voice,  and my smiles are too.

I'm living slow motion and the rebirth of myself, I have no time to think about performance anxiety, I know , many of you will think that my lifestyle is too old fashioned , too '50s, but I really like it, I love that I've found  the sense of myself outside of the office, where the frustrations and anxieties are amplified by unnecessary diatribes. I discovered that I do not need a desk to know who I am, I do not need to run up and down a corridor of gossips to prove who i am.
I am me! I am every day, my thoughts, my desire t knowledge and  the joy I feel when I take care of those who I love, my maternal nature exploded like fireworks on New Year and all the colors of the rainbow shine vivid and joyful.

Well iron wash clean, prepare the fish and potatoes for dinner, things of  everyday.
I love listening to music while working, to be with myself to the rhythm of the 80s.
Oh yes, I am musically vintage!

My daughter is  from the '90s , she glows ! She is a wonderful young woman who now walks along her road, beautiful as the sun, stubborn, intelligent, walking without the need for me to support her, but knowing that I'm here for her.

My son from the 2000s, explores the world like Columbus exploring the seas, curious adventurous enthusiast. Always smiling and loving, I walk with him,  but I'm sure that he is already finding his way, that  light in his eyes full of happiness is amazing. 

Ho'opnopono 

S. 

my own personal sacher torte (haha! enjoy)

HAPPY!

family dinner

Dishes : stracotto beef with hot peppers; Pok Choi; french fries 

Step 1 
1.4 kg beef (better with bone) 
1/2 white onion
1.5 oil spoon
salt and pepper to taste
1 hot chili pepper
6-7 capers
1 teaspoon sweet paprika

chop the veggies and pour them in a big pot, sauté for five minutes then add the meat the paprika and salt&pepper. cook for 5 hours over a low heat. 

Step 2
800 gr pok choi 
1/2 white onion
1 spoon of oil
salt and pepper to taste

Wash and chop the Pok Choi (Chinese cabbage) and let it dry, in the meantime chop the onion and put it in a big pan with oil , and fry slightly, then add the pok choi and cook on a moderate fire for 40 minutes. 

Step 3
4 big potatoes
2 lt. corn oil 

peel and cut the potatoes then wash and dry them. bring the oil to 170° C, deep fry and then... 

Bon Appetìt! 

notes : for the beef and the pok choi use extra virgin olive oil. 

S. 

I carry your heart with me (I love you)

We thought he had found the house of our life, however the last minute the seller backed out. Ok, no problem, it means that it was not our house, it wasn't meant to be.
But today is a new day, and something magical will happen, I keep looking at the sky and knowing that there are no limits, zero limits to our happiness ,ho'oponopono .
We found each other after a lifetime search, and we didn't have to fall in love because we new from the first moment that we were soul mates, we we born in love with each other, just spent a little time travelling the world before coming back to our love. 
I met the man of my life in another universe and time, and we share our lives, finally, so... I could say that we already have our home, 
our hearts are home. 

http://www.poetryfoundation.org/poetrymagazine/poem/179622


I love you
I'm sorry
Please forgive me
Thank you

S.

hashtagging instagram me #smile

I started 292 days ago, the project is called : one smile a day ( #one #smile #a #day #project )
every day I post a picture of a smile of mine. The issue is to make people smile in despite of how their, our, day is going. 
The cost of a smile is nothing, the gain is fulfilling love and joy, a glowing heart. 
The project will end on day 365, but the smiles will keep goin'. 
Dear friends all over the world, please join me in this smiling game, join and smile and love and be happy. 
Post pictures of you and your family, lets invade the world with positive feelings and love. 

S. 

 Instagram : sandravalentini1972

fried green tomatoes, not at the train stop

Step 1

3 big green tomatoes

 1 cup cornmeal, 

1/2 cup flour, 

1 cup breadcrumbs

1 egg

1/2 cup milk 

salt and pepper to taste

sunflower oil

Step 2

cut the tomatoes in slices of 1 cm,then dry them , in one bowl put the 3 dry ingredients and mix,  dip the tomatoes in the egg and milk mix, and then in the dry mix. 

Salt to taste, then deep fry for the slices for about 6 minutes

et voilà! Bon appetìt! 

S. 

Mood and happiness and... haha!

It all depends on mood
every day can be spectacular, if you decide that it has to be,so  we must roll up our sleeves and choose to be happy even when the pieces of the jigsaw don't seem to fit. I believe that the evolution of my life, the becoming of my story , are the sum of all past memories. I can choose to undergo the past passively or keep memories as education and progress, I decided to choose the second.
 I'm not scared and even in subjection,  I'm ready to wear the mantle and hold high the shield.
It all depends on the mood
then I choose to be in a good mood, to be grateful and happy.Things that need to  be changed will change and I'll keep smiling.It is a challenge, every day.  and I'm not afraid.
It all depends on mood
We are made of light and dreams and infinite, we are the whole universe without limits.
and if in doubt, laugh!
S.

recipe (a little fun in my kitchen)

- for the dough
2 eggs
2 handfull flour

- for the filling
2 sauseges
300 gr cauliflower leaves
400 gr béchamel (home made) 
100 gr parmigiano

salt and pepper to taste
step 1 
mix the eggs with the flour until the dough is firm. let stand thirty minutes. Then roll out the dough thin and cook in salted water (a sheet at a time).
step 2
remove the skin from the sausages and simmer for ten minutes, then add the leaves of cauliflower and stew for thirty minutes.
step 3
prepare the béchamel as follows: Melt sixty grams of butter in a saucepan and slowly add sixty grams of flour, when it is mixed add about half a liter of milk, salt to taste and nutmeg to taste, remove from heat when it is creamy.
step 4
mix the sauce with sausage gravy and leaves of cauliflower, roll out the dough in a rectangular pan, pour a third of the mixture and cover with parmesan, repeat three times, bake in preheated oven (170 degrees) for about forty minutes .

pull out of the oven and let stand for about fifteen minutes, then serve. 

we matched the dish with a good wine, Amarone della Valpolicella. 
Bon Appetìt! 

S.

It's all about choices

It's all about what we choose, 

I had lost myself on this road I'm walking, I thought it could be easier without being able to recognize the signals of what could be a failure.
Parenting isn't an easy issue, in the last twenty -three years I lived to give my children all my love and caring, forgetting the most important step, independence, this is the best present I could give, and I will.
Now I know, and I'm letting go, not for lack of love, now I know that I made the wrong choice and from today things are changing . 
I choose to make a few steps back and let them be the wonderful human beings they are. 
I will always walk near them, never again in front of them, I'll be silent and caring from the right distance. Won't love less, won't care less but I'll talk less.
My life was full of challenges, and I've backed down sometimes, wrong decision, walk head high and straight back Sandy! 
I choose now to walk my path with Ho'oponopono, and give all my love to those I cherish, without being afraid to fail. 

I love you
I'm sorry
Please forgive me
Thank you 

S. 

tanto per dire

Tanto per dire, 

dopo un pò che non scrivo avrei milioni di parole accumulate come pagine di vita vissuta, si spingono l'un l'altra fuori caoticamente e quasi soffoco, tanto da dire, tante emozioni, poco tempo. 

Tanto per dire, 

ho accumulato peso e pensieri, come se i secondi finissero direttamente sui fianchi per non farmi dimenticare il peso delle responsabilità ma anche quello della gioia. Ho accumulato felicità e sorrisi, scorte per l'inverno. Ho accumulato frustrazioni e problemi che mi hanno tolto il sonno ma regalato capelli d'argento. 
Ho riso e pianto e urlato e corso e sognato e vomitato parole all'infinito, ho vissuto. 
Ho vissuto l'amore e la comprensione, potrebbe sembrare un lavoro massivo per il cuore e l'anima, 
ma non è stato nulla che non abbia potuto affrontare a modo mio, che non è sempre il modo migliore ma sono così... una testarda ragazza di montagna. 

Tanto per dire, 

a chi rincorre la perfezione consiglio di fermarsi ad ascoltare, la perfezione è già qui, sono io, siete voi, siamo perfettamente noi stessi e questo a me basta, a voi? 
La mia ricerca della felicità non finisce in fondo ad un cassetto di rimpianti e quando sbaglio , dopo qualche testata al muro, mi rialzo e ricomincio. 

Ho accumulato sensazioni e lividi, scarpe scomode e calzini spaiati, robe da stirare e ansie da placare. Ho accumulato piacere e sapori e Vita... tanta vita, 

Tanto per dire, 
Sono stata sempre qui ed ho vissuto.
S. 

La felicità, parliamone (così semplicemente)

Felicità
molti passano giorni interi a rincorrere la felicità dimenticando di coltivare quella che già hanno, pronta, leggera, quella felicità che cresce dentro di noi insieme a noi, quella che cammina con noi senza mai chiedere niente in cambio se non ... noi. 

Buddha 
Te stesso, così come ognuno nell'intero universo, merita il tuo amore e il tuo affetto

Mi guardo intorno
le persone per strada , a piedi, in auto ovunque, sempre meno esseri umani sorridono per il puro gusto di farlo, sembra quasi che nessuno ascolti più la voce del mondo che ci dedica tutto se stesso. Nessuno più si concede di dedicarsi la felicità. E' davvero così? 

Io
sono felice, non lo dico con superficialità, io sono felice ogni giorno. La mia è una felicità conquistata, a volte mi sembra di aver indossato un'armatura costruita sulle mie paure, sulle delusioni, sulle ferite, a volte mi sembra di averla costruita con le lacrime, ma la verità è molto più bella, la mia armatura non è dura, non tiene fuori il mondo. 

Sono cresciuta
fidandomi , del cielo, dei tramonti, fidandomi dei sorrisi e degli abbracci e sono cresciuta quando mi hanno fatto male perché mi hanno insegnato, tutte le mie esperienze, ad essere me stessa, sempre, senza pregiudizi e senza filtri.

Capita
Anche a voi di cantare in auto andando a lavoro? capita anche a voi di ridere da soli? capita anche a voi di volervi bene? così come siete? di amarvi incondizionatamente? beh! se vi succede questo e altro allora siete come gli arcobaleni, nessuno rimane indifferente di fronte alla bellezza di un arcobaleno.

Luce
siate luce, gioia, siate felici di chi siete, lasciate che tutti possano vedere la vostra anima bella.
Anche quando abbiamo una brutta giornata, settimana, mese, sempre in ogni istante possiamo goderci, amarci, essere felici di noi stessi.

Semplicemente
S.